Family Expansion

We have big news people.

I mean really, really big news.

This isn’t the most personal way to tell you all about this – but it allows us to announce it one time . . .

We’re still adjusting ourselves . . .

You know how this is going to end but being who I am I have to tell you the entire story. All details . . . those relevant . . . and not . . . have to be included.

Here is how it happened . . .

It started after Mom and I dropped my sweet little nephew D off at the airport so he could fly back to Fairbanks to be with his wife, daughter and grandchildren.

(Don’t spend too much time trying to figure that one out.)

Mom and I were supposed to go look at fabric for pillows.

We wound up here instead.

Not the police station!  . . . the other place. (Although it probably would have been a pretty good story if we had wound up at the police station.)

I’ve wanted another dog for a while now. . . so we stopped at Animal Control so I could do some research. Who stops at an animal shelter to do research? Only people who really want to bring home an animal that’s who.

We did, however, manage to leave empty-handed . . .

Only because it was time to retrieve kidlets from the government institution at which they are receiving their education . . .

and not before an “I’m in the process of being adopted” sign was posted on a certain kennel.

I picked up the kids and told them I had the biggest surprise of their lives for them after Roo’s piano lesson . . . and after chores were done.

I’ve never seen chores get done so fast.

While Roo was finishing her lesson I did call the man whose salary pays the mortgage on this house to run the whole thing by him. Our conversation went like this:

Me: “Hi, honey . . . how would you feel if there were a new member of the family when you got home from work today?”

Husband (nearly jumping through the phone – and not with joy): “Did you get another dog?!!!!?!?”

Me: “Me? Noooo . . . a seven month old gray and white kitty whose name is Jessie.”

Husband (suddenly totally calm): “Oh. That’s fine.”

There you have it.

If I ever want to rile up my husband I just have to tell him we I have adopted another dog.

This could . . . maybe . . . possibly . . .  have something to do with my last visit to Animal Control. I had to go look at an owner surrendered dog a friend told us about. I brought her home because she was just too good a dog to leave at the pound. Never mind the fact that we already had two canine companions and I was still grieving the loss of our third. I promised my husband I would find the dog a new home. That was in 2001. She still lives with us.

After the piano lesson Grammie, the kids and I piled in the car and went back to Animal Control.

And I lied to my children.

“I just need to go in this place and take some pictures for a project and if you two are REALLY, REALLY good I’ll let you come in and look at the animals before we get your surprise.”

Surprises sometimes require lying. It’s one of those shades of gray areas that make parenting a little tricky.

“We tell the truth, honey, except when it suits Mamma.”

I went in, filled out the paperwork and paid the fees.

And took a few pictures so I wasn’t being entirely dishonest.

And then let the kids come in as promised.

They checked out this . . .

and this . . .

and this . . .

This last picture is of a gerbil. G made me take the picture. He thought it was a hamster. It’s one of his obsessions.

I apologize for the poor photo quality. Nocturnal creatures generally don’t book photo shoots that early in the evening.

We started to cruise the dog area but it was entirely too noisy for Roo.

“Let’s check out the cattery. It’s quieter in there,” says I.

The children looked.

 The children admired.

G talked to a cat who talked back.

Roo asked, for the 3,452nd time  since she was four, “When can we have a cat?”

“Maybe they will let you hold one,” said I.

The kennel tech freed a cat from her cage.

It just happened to be the one for which I had spent the previous half-hour filling out paperwork.

The kids were careful and serious.

They pet the cat gently.

Roo asked, for the 3,453rd time, “When can we have a cat?”

“What if we take this one home?” asked I.

“Really?”

She didn’t believe me.

“Yes. What if we take this one home?”

Happy, happy  boy. 

Roo looked at Grammie to confirm that I was indeed telling the truth. She was so shocked she forgot to jump around and do cartwheels. I’ve never seen her so surprised she actually quit moving.

Even while we waited for the tech to put the cat in the box and bring her out to us Roo just stood in the lobby with a silly smile on her face repeating, over and over and over, “I can’t believe we got a cat.”

G smiled and giggled a lot.

The cat has adjusted well to her new abode. She ran around investigating everything immediately after being sprung from the box in which she came home. There was no hiding under the bed for this little one.

She did have a few stressful moments.

They might have had something to do with this . . .

Those two will need to work on their relationship. Burton thinks we brought her home a new playmate. The new playmate isn’t so interested in playing.

For the record, this was ok’d by Grammie who is allergic and does spend a lot of time at our house.

So now we have a cat.

And Riley no longer has to say to everyone, “When Uncle J and Grammie die then I can have a cat.” (If we had known then what we know now she could have added Uncle D’s name to that list.)

All of our cat-allergic relatives are very much alive.

We now keep allergy meds at the house.

And we have a cat who has no name . . . because we couldn’t stick with Jessie and can’t decide what to call her. So she gets called Cat a lot.

Surely we can do better than that.

I’ll let you all know if Cat ever gets a real name,
D

Hode a’Moon

Several weeks ago I was cleaning out the documents folder on my computer and I found a file called “Hode a’Moon.” It was a conversation I documented between Roo and I when she was two. The conversation took place on the third anniversary – nearly to the hour – of the day we found out Roo was taking up real estate in my uterus. This picture was taken the day after our little chat.

This was her “wrinkle the nose during picture taking” phase.

G was still working on getting his 5 1/2 month old twenty pound body to sit up.

Two things to keep in mind as you read . . . 1) we don’t see the moon much in the summer in Anchorage; 2) at the time this conversation took place Roo still referred to herself in the third person.

August 27, 2005 . . . 9:45 a.m. . . . playground

G was in the stroller. I was pushing Roo on the swing. Roo pointed toward the sky and asked, “Wha’tdat?”

“What’s what?” I asked.

Roo, pointing, “Wha’tdat?”

Mama, looking around confused, “What?”

Roo, still patiently pointing, “Wha’tdat?”

Mama, with surprise, “Oh! That’s the moon!”

“Hode it,” said Roo.

Mama, with regret, “Oh, honey . . . we don’t get to hold the moon.”

Roo, quite positive and patiend, “Hode it. Want Mommy to pick you up and show you.”

“Picking you up isn’t going to get you much closer to the moon, Roo Roo.”

“Get’da stool.”

“That will take a very big stool.”

“Rye-ee get a bigger stool.”

“I’m sorry honey . . . we just get to look at the moon.”

(Long, long pause.)

“When . . . when . . . Daddy . . . when Daddy get back he . . . he gi’tit and pud’it in you hand.”

Oh, Sweetness.

Can I tell you how grateful I am that I wrote this down? They say your memories are part of you forever even if you can’t access them. This is one I want to pull out and savor and look at and turn ’round and ’round for the rest of my life.

Sexy Ungulate

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Members of PETA will probably not want to read this post.

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Close your browser window now if you are squeamish.

Consider yourself warned.

One night last week my husband and I had the opportunity to bond over this . . .

This, for those of you who don’t know, is a hind quarter of an Alces alces.

We call them moose around here.

They look like this when still in one piece.

And it is a beautiful thing. It is equally beautiful in our freezer.

Except maybe not this part.

But I digress, as usual.

As my in-laws were graciously braving the crazy Monday night crowd at the Everything Store on our behalf, C and I worked together to get this put up in the freezer.

That means he wielded the knife and I herded children around, ran the FoodSaver®, and was momentarily able to forget the fact that the very next day my baby was running off to kindergarten.

This particular hunk of meat was a gift to my husband in exchange for the use of his boat and muscles.

And we are extremely grateful for it.

And it isn’t just because security in my little world is a full freezer.

By the way . . .

I have to tell you. There is nothing sexier than your husband walking through the door of your house with the hind quarter of an ungulate slung over his shoulder. I’d have the pictures to prove it but I was busy opening the door.

It’s true. The sexy part, that is.

Yes that does say moose fajita.

Yum.

And for those of you who are curious about what the bottom of a moose hoof looks like, well here you go.

Reminds me of an ashtray my parents had. It was made from a moose hoof. What can I even say about that? Except the word “classy” doesn’t immediately spring to mind.

Grateful and drooling,
D

And he’s off . . .

to school.

Kindergarten to be exact.

He started school on the 24th. I haven’t written about it because I’m not sure what to say.

Except that our little world has changed dramatically.

Perhaps I’ll write about empty nest syndrome later. Give me six months. By then I might be able to speak about my baby going off to school and me being home without children 6.75 hours a day without copious amounts of liquid leaking from my eye sockets.

His day did start with a few tears.

He was a little extra cuddly at breakfast.

His jaw quivered a bit during picture-taking.

Fortunately his sister got a laugh out of him so his little system wasn’t doused in extra cortisol the entire morning.

When we got to school he just stood like a statue in line. The stone face is what we see when he is using all of his willpower to hold back tears.  I could feel the apprehension emanating from every ounce of his 46 pounds.  He didn’t speak. I couldn’t speak without tearing up. C rarely speaks. So we just stood there.

I did have to kiss his sweet face at least three times while we were waiting for the bell to ring.

I managed to hold the tears back until G went in the school. But then I had to stop in the parking lot and cry on my husband’s shoulder for a full ten minutes before we could drive home. It must be noted that Daddy got a little teary at this point too.

It’s a good thing my in-laws are here this week. It is a nice diversion and is helping soften the blow.

When I picked G up after school and asked him about his day all I got was, “I have food left over.”

No fountain of information here.

By six o’clock that evening however things had changed. When his daddy asked G about his day G spouted off a list of at least six things that had happened at school.

At least he is talking to someone. Let’s pray it stays that way.

And I’m pleased to report that both of us have made it through his first week. He is happy with school and I’m working on distracting myself with productive activity. I’ve made 17 pairs of earrings in the last four days.

Experiencing growing pains,
D

And she’s off . . .

to school.

Sigh.

A new school.

A new grade.

A new educational model.

And she loves it.

Whew.

After nearly being late for her first day of school – due to her mother’s inability to pass by any stray dog without attempting to find the owner – and being rushed right in the door last in line . . . her day was spectacular.

The sun was even shining . . . which is worth noting because we have had 33 consecutive days of rain.

Upon arrival home she immediately began planning her outfit for the second day of school.

Afterwards we spent a full half an hour in the backyard – her swinging and me sitting in a lawn chair attempting to restore my vitamin d level – discussing the events of the day.

I heard about the smart board, her very own desk, sharing scissors, the up and down project, the names of all of her new friends, her now favorite teacher’s dress, the word search, being the very first kid to be called on . . . not able to tumble all of her thoughts out fast enough she finally just stopped, looked at me and said, “I have so much to tell you.”

I pray she is always so forthcoming with information.

Again this evening at bedtime she shared more . . .  I heard about the teacher’s microphone, taking attendance, the eraser bucket, the teacher’s personal workspace, the math books they forgot to look at, the water fountain, lunch, recess . . .

and as I write she is lying in bed with her head spinning.

Full of happy thoughts.

Amen.

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